If you’re hoping AI can save your dating life, Rhik Samadder’s latest experiment is probably the reality check you need.
In his latest first-person piece, Samadder decided to let the AI take over his love life as part of a broader six-week experiment. This led to him handing over parts of his daily routine to AI chatbots, including writing his dating profile, helping with messages, choosing his outfit, and even typing conversation prompts during an actual date. And the result was less of a romantic breakthrough and more of a social car crash.
How bad could it be?
The first warning sign came early. Samadder asked the AI to write his dating profile, and out of it came an elaborate, whimsical blurb about how he was a “creative guy with nerd firmware” and brought “plot twists.” This immediately raised alarm, but the discomfort only grew when the chatbot began to control the actual interaction.
To his credit, Samadder was open about the experiment with his date. He told her that the AI would help write his messages, choose the date, and provide conversation prompts. She agreed, which is already more generous than most people would.
The real problem wasn’t the words. It was the mood
As the date began, the chatbot’s advice became painfully awkward. Samadder praised his date’s hair by saying it had “pure A24 energy” and then had to literally turn away and ask the AI to explain what that meant when it looked confused. He later tried another AI-powered line about television pioneer John Logie Baird, who lived in their neighborhood, which again failed.
His date quickly found the problem. She said the AI-generated messages sound emotionally intelligent but lack authentic atmosphere. She even summed it up perfectly by saying, “You sound like a therapist who got rejected.”
So the conclusion is clear. AI can feign confidence but cannot create chemistry.
